This may seem like an odd question: How much pain do you want in your divorce? Nobody really wants pain, do they? Yet time and again divorcing couples make decisions in the conduct of their divorce that causes pain- to themselves, to their spouse, and, worst of all, to their children. One may wonder why people are motivated to act in such a way. Sometimes it is revenge. Often it is an inability to control emotions. Many times, though, it is out of fear. Fear over what the fu